L I V I N G W I T H I N T E N T I O N
You have tried to change your health more times than you can count. The plans, the programs, the years of starting over on Monday.
You have given this more honest effort than most people understand. What you cannot shake is the question underneath the trying:
who must I become to stay healthy?
The cycle brought you here
Maybe you have tried everything: the gym memberships, the meal plans, the personal trainers who got results until life got in the way. Maybe your energy has quietly gone, and you cannot remember when it left. Or maybe you are tracking everything — your sleep, recovery, HRV — and the data is changing nothing about what you actually do.
A moment brought you here
Maybe a number on a blood test, a diagnosis you did not expect, or a birthday that landed differently than the last few has made it impossible to keep deferring this. Something has arrived that you cannot walk away from, and the cost of pretending otherwise is no longer one you are willing to pay.
Love brought you here
Maybe you are watching a parent’s health and seeing your own future too clearly. Or maybe you are becoming a parent, or already are one, and something has shifted. This is no longer just about you, and you can no longer afford for it to be.
Whatever brought you here, you do not have to figure this out alone.
The questions you are sitting withI have tried so many times before. Why would this time be any different?
How do I break the cycle of doing well for a while, only to fall back into old patterns?
I love food. Do I really have to give that up to be healthy?
If my body is the result of years of choices, is it actually possible to undo all of that now?
I did not break the cycle by trying harder. I broke it by living intentionally, one decision, one habit, one day at a time.
My story
I have been the person who loves food too much to give it up, tells himself he will start properly on Monday, and genuinely believes the next program will be the one that finally sticks. I have struggled with my body image for as long as I can remember. Growing up in India, I was the academic kid, not the athletic one. Moving abroad made it worse. I was just about figuring out who I was in a country that did not know me, when the internet began telling everyone what attractive was supposed to look like.
At 26, I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes. I carried that diagnosis for sixteen years.
When I was 27, I finally got really healthy for my brother’s wedding. For two years, I was disciplined in a way I had rarely been before. I built a body I had never had, and with it came a confidence I had never really known. Then came law school in Boston: my first time living alone in a new city, the pressure of grades, the isolation of starting over, and a quiet question I did not yet know how to answer: did I even want to be a lawyer? The old patterns did not return dramatically. They rarely do. They came back quietly, one compromise at a time. A missed workout. A careless meal. A familiar excuse. Before I knew it, I was back inside the same spiral I thought I had left behind.
The turning point came from an unlikely place. The Landmark Forum in late 2023 did not teach me anything about health. What it did was push me to stop waiting until I felt ready and to seek the right help. That decision led me to Dr Trishala Chopra, a functional medicine physician who founded The Health Medic on the belief that food is medicine. She did not just manage my condition. She helped me understand it: the science of insulin resistance, and how what we eat, how we sleep, how we move, and what we feel are all connected. For the first time in sixteen years, I understood what was actually happening inside my body.
I found a fitness coach who became the accountability partner I had always needed but never had. And I started doing my own research, over a thousand hours of podcasts, peer-reviewed studies, and clinical literature. The more I understood, the more the right choices became obvious rather than effortful.
By March 2024, I was completely off medication. Not just for diabetes, for the dust allergy I had managed with antihistamines for years. Both gone. The science, combined with the inner work and the right support, had done what willpower alone never could.
Living with intention is not a program you follow. It is a process you build, one honest habit at a time, until those habits are no longer something you do but something you are. That is the work I do with every client.
That cycle repeated itself, with variations, for the next decade and a half. I am not telling you all of this to establish credentials. I am telling you because I know exactly what it is to want to change and to keep failing at it. And I know now that for most people, that failure has very little to do with willpower or discipline.
Personal trainers. Strict meal plans. I told myself I was a live-to-eat person, that food was joy, identity, memory, celebration. I was not entirely wrong. But I was also using food to manage everything else: stress, boredom, emotions I had not yet learned to examine. No program was touching that. So nothing lasted.
When Diya was born in June 2020, something shifted that no amount of motivation had ever moved. It was no longer only about me. I needed to be alive and capable for her. Not just present in the room, but physically there at fifteen, twenty-five, forty. What becoming a father gave me was the reason to change. What it could not give me was the knowledge of how to change. For the next three years I worked harder than I ever had, with more structure, more commitment, and the same result.
How I workThe work always begins in the same place. Getting honest about what is driving you, understanding what you are carrying, and building the clarity you need for whatever comes next.
Most health transformations fail not because people lack effort, but because they are trying to change their behavior without changing their relationship with themselves. A new routine is not enough. What has to change is identity, the story you tell yourself about who you are and what you are capable of. That is the work I do alongside the practical.
I am still a live-to-eat person. I always will be. What changed is that I am no longer using food to manage everything else. That shift, from coping to choosing, is what I help every client find.
The coaching covers four pillars that determine whether a health transformation actually lasts: sleep, movement, nutrition, and the way you talk to yourself when you miss a day. That last one is where most programs collapse. It is also where I spend the most time.
I cannot promise you a number on a scale or a clean blood test. What I can promise is what changed for me: the moment when the right choice stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like who you actually are. That is what I want for every person I work with.
Eat to Live
A NUTRITION EDUCATION SERIES
The science I wish someone had explained to me before I spent sixteen years trying to outrun a diagnosis. A six-module self-paced series covering how your body actually works, and the practical tools that make change sustainable. Not a diet. Not a program. The knowledge foundation everything else builds on.
What I offerWe begin with a Discovery Call to understand where you are, and what kind of support would serve you best. From there, we choose the next step together.
The Reset
ONE SESSION
If you feel stuck, or cannot see clearly what is actually in the way, this 90-minute session helps you cut through the noise. Together, we look at what is really driving the pattern, what no program has touched, and what shift you need to move forward.
The Intention Practice
COACHING ENGAGEMENT
This is shaped around your body, your history, your schedule, and your pace. Through our sessions, we build the habits, the mindset, and the identity that make change stick - not for a month, but for life.
If something in this resonates, I would love to talk. A free discovery call, just an honest conversation about where you are and what it would actually take to change it.