W A Y B A C K H O M E
You have built a life abroad. A career, a home, a community of people who know you.
You have worked harder than most people around you will ever fully appreciate. And yet, somewhere in the middle of all of it, not loudly, just persistently, a question keeps surfacing:
is this really where I belong?
Longing brought you here
Maybe you came here the way I did, slowly and deliberately, after years of carrying this question you kept setting aside. Maybe what is pulling you back is something you cannot quite name, the smell of the city you grew up in, a festival watched from the wrong time zone, the particular comfort of being somewhere that already knows you.
Circumstance brought you here
Maybe you did not choose to be here at all. A visa, a layoff, a sick family member, a family business that needs someone, a work permit that kept you in one career long past the point where it felt like yours. If that is where you are, you are not just navigating a decision. You are grieving a life you did not choose to leave.
Doubt is keeping you here
If what is keeping you from deciding is the doubt that India cannot match what you have built here, that the income gap is real, that the quality of life is not something you can simply recreate, that fear is worth sitting with too. It is not a reason not to go. But it is something that deserves an honest answer before you decide.
Whatever brought you here, you do not have to figure this out alone.
The questions you are sitting withMy parents are getting older. Am I genuinely okay with seeing them only on annual visits? What happens when they actually need me?
Where do I want my children to grow up? What roots, what community, what sense of identity do I want to give them, and can I give them that from here?
I did not choose to leave, circumstances made the decision for me. How do I build a life I actually want when the starting point was never mine?
How do I make this decision for the right reasons, and not out of guilt, fear, or a romanticized idea of home that may no longer exist the way I remember it?
Moving back was the best decision we ever made. Not because it was easy, and it wasn’t. But because it was ours. And that, I have learned, makes all the difference.
My story
I moved to the US at 14. Alone, without my parents or my brother. A teenager in a foreign country, figuring out who I was without the family and community that had always defined me.
Over two decades I built what looked, from the outside, like everything an American Dream is supposed to be. Georgia Tech, Stanford, Google, big law firms. A career I was genuinely proud of. But underneath it all, there was always a tension. The longer I stayed, the more I had built. And the more I had built, the harder it became to honestly ask whether this was the life I actually wanted.
When Janvi joined me in 2014, the question became impossible to keep avoiding. Where did we want our children to grow up? What did we want to give them that we could not buy or build in the Bay Area?
My way back home went through Mexico City. In the autumn of 2016, sitting with old college friends over dinner, something cracked open in me. These friends had moved countries every two years with two young children in tow. It was not easy. But they were genuinely, deeply happy. They had chosen their life, rather than letting it accumulate around them by default. That feeling stayed with me. And it finally moved me to act.
We arrived in Mumbai in early 2017. The years that followed were genuinely difficult, the chaos, the adjustment after two decades away, the days we missed the ease of what we had left. But slowly, the community we had come back for started to show up.
Every way back home looks different. Mine took twenty years, a career reinvention, an identity that needed rebuilding, and a dinner in Mexico City I still think about. Yours will have its own shape. That is where I come in.
How I workThis decision must be made with clarity and honesty, not out of guilt, not out of nostalgia, and not as an escape from something that has simply stopped working.
We start by getting honest about what is actually driving you. Whether you are moving toward something or running away from something matters enormously, and most people have not fully sat with that distinction yet.
Then we look at the identity you have built abroad, which parts are genuinely yours, and which have accumulated around you over the years.
From there, we work through what I call the India Life Matrix, a structured look at every sphere of life the move will affect, from the practical to the psychological, to make sure nothing important is left unexamined.
I cannot tell you where you will end up. What I can tell you is that when Janvi and I finally made our decision, the clarity itself was the thing that changed us, before we had even packed a box. That is what I want for every person I work with.
The India Life Blueprint
A PRACTICAL GUIDE
The resource I wish Janvi and I had when we made this decision. A comprehensive guide covering every sphere of life that changes when you move back: housing, finances, schooling, healthcare, professional reinvention, and the psychological adjustment nobody warns you about. Not a motivational document. A real one.
What I offerWe begin with a Discovery Call to understand where you are, and what kind of support would serve you best. From there, we choose the next step together.
The Landing
ONE SESSION
If you feel stuck, or cannot see the decision clearly, this 90-minute session helps you slow the noise down. Together, we look at what is really driving the question, what is keeping you uncertain, and what clarity you need to move forward - whichever direction that turns out to be.
The Homecoming
COACHING ENGAGEMENT
This is shaped around your unique needs, family realities, priorities, and pace. Through our sessions, we build the kind of clarity that holds - not only on the good days, but also on the days when you wonder if you made the right call.
If this question has been following you around, I would love to talk. A free discovery call, just an honest conversation with no pressure in either direction.